Ms. X has a blog but she’s not gonna tell. She prefers to remain anonymous as she doesn’t want to be stalked. Konon.
Itu adalah ayat dari Ms. X, True. She does have a blog but she refuse to share her blog with Akubetul’s readers…yet. Nevermind, at least she accepts my invitation to write something here. Very interesting topic she chose, stalker….So, important reminder here, read this article as it written by a woman, lady, awek… selalunya korang baca dari perspective aku, seorang lelaki. So, pandai-pandai lah adjust.
I think a friend of mine told me that her friend normally received at least one call per day from the husband, with no other purpose but just to tanya khabar. Mind you, the couple has been married for more than 10 years and with several kids. And here they are, where the husband still behaves as if he was courting her back then! Aawww, considerate romantic men are still in existence. The men who will curse the stone which the wives accidentally stubbed, the men who will still hold our hands when walking about instead of leaving us walking alone staring at their back.
Men are not useless after all! Yay!
So Girls, keep hoping for the best though I have to tell you that I’m very skeptical lah. These species of men are very rare di muka bumi ini dan hanya exists in the movies. I think generally, women want that; we do want attention from the loved ones. Of course, it depends on what kind of women you are and your preference. I doubt the fiercely independent women want men like that as it can be considered insulting and clingy. As if we are not adult enough that you have to hold our hands. Blah la.
Guys, basically the rules are easy and simple. Just do what a gentleman do, and even more pun takpe. But yes, there’s fine line bordering ‘annoying’ and ‘insulting’.
Once, there was this guy (a guy friend ye Mr. Right, not a special someone) who called me every single night without failed! Oh my God, seriously at times I hated seeing his name appearing on my mobile. We talked almost every night, later there’s no story to talk about! Plus, hello! I do have a TV to watch and life to live. You don’t have to call every night la. And let’s not talk about sms. Please know how restrain yourself la wei. Ini tak, every hour a sms need to be send. Make things worse, every 5 minutes my mobile would “beep, beep” or whatever your sms alert sounds like. Itu stalking namanya. And it is very annoying la.
In most cases, it’s not like we don’t like you but just give us some space. There were instances also, whenever I feel like not talking, I press that ‘red’ button and the call will go straight to my voicemail. The guy who call me actually sulk! Please lah, merajuk konon. You have to remember, dah lah call and sms every hour, don’t expect us to answer and reply every single of it as we do have works to do and responsibility towards others.
As I said, everyone loves attention, BE A GENTLEMAN NOT A STALKER!
But if you’re the kind of person who flirts with everything and anything even a lamp post, then you deserve the repeating calls and smses la. You asked for it.
For me, personally aku tidak kisah sangat kalau tunang, kawan, rakan sekerja atau sesiapa sahaja kacau aku with calls or sms. But just ikut time la. Kalau officemate call midnight and ask about work, confirm la kena maki dulu before aku layan. Kepada sesiapa yang berminat nak post something here, contact aku through email.